Unfortunately, even when you’re managing your fibromyalgia well through lifestyle changes, alternative and conventional treatments, and supplements like FibroAid, you’re still bound to have a flare day every now and then. They’re inevitable. In fact, I’m in the middle of a flare right now. And I’m not going to sugar coat it. It sucks. But you all know that!
I haven’t flared for a few weeks now, which is great, and I owe a good part of that to FibroAid. But this morning I woke up feeling like I hadn’t slept a wink. My entire body was aching, I was fatigued, light-headed, and extremely weak. Some days, if I get up and get moving, I do okay and can function. Today was not one of those days. Instead, getting up and trying to function actually made me feel worse.
So what do you do on flare days like this? You know they are bound to happen. And while there’s not much you can do to keep them at bay forever, there are things you can do to make these hard days a little easier.
How to Make Your Flare Days a Little Easier
1. Give yourself a break
This is probably the hardest thing for me. Our society conditions us to believe that our worth is based on our productivity, and that taking care of ourselves when we need a little extra is a sign of weakness. Well I’m here to tell you that absolutely none of that is true. You are worthy simply because you are you! Taking time to care for yourself, especially in the middle of a fibro flare, is essential. It’s important for your health, for your sanity, and for your happiness. Don’t get too hard on yourself about all the things you cannot do. Focus on what you CAN do. And that is take care of yourself and try to make your flare a little shorter than it otherwise would be.
2. Rest if you can. Take it easy if you can’t.
Whether you’re working or in school, chances are you can’t take a sick day every single time you’re in a flare. If you’re a parent, you don’t get any sick days at all. If you can, rest and recharge. Be sure to take your meds, use any at-home treatments you may have available to you. Listen to your body. You know it better than anyone else. If you can’t rest and recover, take it easy. Don’t over-commit yourself, and know that it’s 100% okay to say no to things that you are not up for or that do not serve you. Most things can be done tomorrow, or the next day, or even the day after that. Be kind to yourself and your body, and take it easy.
3. Don’t be afraid to ask for help.
Asking for help is not a sign of weakness. You don’t have to deal with a flare day alone. It’s okay to ask for help if you need it! If you don’t have the energy to do something, see if someone can help you. If your brain fog is so bad you can’t drive (we’ve all been there), it’s okay to ask for a ride. You will always be better off asking for help, especially in the long run, than you will be trying to do it all yourself.
4. Talk to someone.
As I said above, you are not alone. And you don’t have to face a flare day alone. That’s what your support system is for! If yours isn’t very strong, there are quite a few online communities where you can find people to talk to. If you have access, speak to a counselor or therapist. Whatever you do, talk to someone. Most people are kind and will want to help you in any way they can. You are not a burden for seeking a help or a sounding board to vent to. Heck, you can even contact me if you want. Just head to my personal blog, click on the “contact” tab, and shoot me an email. I’d be more than happy to help! Support is key for getting through any flare a little bit easier.
5. Distract yourself with something that brings you joy.
This one can be hard in the middle of a flare. It’s down right challenging to find joy during fibro flares sometimes, and if you’re someone who is happiest when you’re busy or active, this may be exceptionally hard for you. Hard, but not impossible. Is there a certain TV show that makes you laugh? Watch it (mine is The Simpsons). A book you’re enjoying? Read it. Knitting, drawing, writing, painting, and really any other low-energy activity is perfect for a flare day. My go-to on really bad flare days is listening to podcasts. You don’t even have to open your eyes, but they are a great escape.
6. Get enough sleep.
Fibromyalgia affects sleep patterns. Sleep disturbances is actually one of the main symptoms of fibromyalgia. So getting enough sleep is much easier said than done in the middle of a flare. If you can nap, try to nap. I know sometimes naps can help me reset and minimize my symptoms if I feel a flare coming on. Not a napper? Make sure to give yourself enough time at night for a full night’s sleep, whatever that means for you. For some, it’s 7-8 hours and for others it’s 9-10+. So just do what works best for you. You may need some extra time on either end of your full night’s sleep to either fall asleep or fully wake up during a flare, so make sure to plan for that!
This one should be obvious for just overall health. We all feel better when we’re fully hydrated, and for some reason, this seems to be the first thing to go out the window when we start feeling horrible. But staying hydrated will improve your energy, support overall bodily functions, and may even help clear up the fibro fog a bit! And we know we can all use a little help in all three of those areas!
8. Avoid trigger foods.
Don’t get me wrong. I’m a total comfort eater. When I feel horrible, I either don’t eat because of nausea, or I eat food that makes me feel better emotionally. And while sometimes, that’s okay, it’s not always great for fibromyalgia flares. If you know your trigger foods, try to avoid them or find alternatives. They may cheer you up a bit emotionally, but if they make your symptoms any worse, that would be counterproductive. Don’t know your trigger foods? Talk to your doctor, do a little research, and listen to your body! Here‘s a list to give you some ideas of what could potentially be trigger foods for you, but your body knows best!
9. Prepare if you can.
Obviously, you don’t expect some of your flares. Sometimes, there’s no apparent cause and your body just decides to revolt. But other times, you might be able to prepare. If you have a big event coming up, are traveling, or know there is going to be a lot of stress in your life, you can schedule recovery days for yourself. You can try to make sure you have everything you need on hand to make sure your flare is a little less painful (metaphorically and physically). You can even prepare a little bit for your unexpected flares by making sure you always have certain pain and symptom management tools on hand at all times. It won’t make the flare go away, but it might just make it a little easier.